I started this about a bit of writing advice I saw, though I think it can be stretched a bit to other things, to a point. I got done with it, and despite the headache and the way I feel right now, I thought that it was something worth sharing here, too.
I just got done seeing another bit of writing advice, and I’ve actually had this conversation and see the person’s point. Mom could attest to that, if I was going to be more specific, but I don’t want to start anything and it’s not just this one post I saw that I found upsetting. Still, Mom and I discussed the issue before, and as I said, we sort of reached the same conclusion this person had reached.
Only I did not and do not agree with the way they said it.
Here’s the thing:
You have experience. You know things. You’ve seen it or discussed it.
You have that knowledge. You have things you can share. You have strong feelings about it.
I get it.
Just remember, this advice you’re giving doesn’t always work for everyone. Your opinion is no more law than the one you’re so very against.
Stop and think about the words you’re using (yes, this is ironic about a post for word choice) and remember, you are talking to an audience. Maybe even a young one. An aspiring author can be more fragile than you realize.
Many writers take years to hone their skills. My skills now compared to what I did when I started are very different.
Back then, though, if I’d seen someone call the way I’d been taught to write what this post did, I’d have been crushed. Even now, after making the changes I have and even following this advice of theirs to a point, I feel hurt.
I just think that people need to remember that it is not just about what they have to say but how they say it.
You can ruin the best, most necessary advice, the thing someone needs to hear if you say it wrong.
So consider what you’re saying. How you’re saying it. Think about how it may impact someone. If you are speaking to be a force for good, do your words reflect that?
I hope mine do. I hope if anyone does read my advice it makes them think, but it doesn’t make them hurt.